Why knowing does always not lead to doing and what to do about it

I’m constantly amazed at myself – and not always in a good way!

There are things that I know would really be of benefit but for whatever reason I don’t do them. Sound familiar?

Take writing. My deadline to start writing regularly was the end of January. I even posted a public declaration on my website to force myself to do it and when I commit out loud to doing something I invariably do it. Not this time though!

So what shifts have enabled this to happen? Good question. Especially now that I feel the tap of the keyboard under my fingers and a tumble of words that, having finally started, seem to just keep flooding out. Like a release of water built up behind a dam, the frustration that’s been building at not having achieved something I so publicly set out to do is receding and I’m feeling more relieved.

What was stopping me?

Me! I wanted perfect! I had a belief that perfect writing was required, a strong desire to do more writing personally rather than outsource it and a passion to share valuable learning to benefit others. And the result – paralysis!

I know that my sentence structure and grammar is less than perfect, that my content won’t always result in an epiphany or new learning for everyone but the more I held onto perfect content perfectly written, the more the wheels spun without getting traction. Sound familiar?

At an intellectual level I know that perfect just doesn’t and can never exist. The logical part of my brain shouts very loudly “We live on a fast spinning, ever changing planet on which everything shifts every millisecond and you think that you can achieve perfect! It’s impossible. As quick as ‘perfect’ appears it’s the new imperfect.”

The emotional part of me says, “Just get over yourself. Get out of your own way because warts and all, we all have a lot to offer. We are all human and perfect just does not exist. Take a deep breath, push yourself outside of your comfort zone and you’ll be surprised, pleased and proud at what you can achieve.”

So at the ripe old age of 21 (!) I’m embracing being imperfect and laughing at myself when I spot it. Writing imperfectly and posting for the world to see. Having increased my self awareness I more quickly recognise the signs of perfection such as triple checking written work, wheels spinning and procrastination. In short I’m consciously choosing to get out of my own way, just be human and move forward more quickly. It’s liberating.

What more could you achieve by letting go of perfect?

To your success

By |2017-09-20T17:25:43+00:00July 19th, 2017|Personal Development|Comments Off on Why knowing does always not lead to doing and what to do about it

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